The therapist looked at me and said that Doug and I needed to treat this attitude like parents of a drug addict. That as much as it hurts us that we can not allow him to live with us when he is choosing to ultimately kill himself. She then told me that it would be so hard to watch him make that choice everyday, and that we needed to prepare ourselves for the fact that because of this David is going to die. He will probably die within 1-5 years because of his decision. He just smiled and had a whatever attitude, and that he isn't worried about finding a place to live because there are plenty of people that will take him in. There is no hard feelings going on between David, Doug, and I at all, he just doesn't want to do what he needs to do to manage his life, his exact words are ," this is all so stupid." I know I already said that, but I feel it bears repeating.
I beg of you if you are approached by David to come and stay with you that you firmly tell him no, and why you are saying no. He needs to hear it from other people, not just us, how badly it hurts us that he is choosing this for his life. Please do not enable him to continue this pattern, I plead with you. He says he isn't trying to hurt us he just doesn't see the point in all of the extra stuff. In his mind he has a new heart and everything should be fine and that nothing will happen, we are all being paranoid.
I am deeply sorry that so many of you have stopped your life for him, have prayed for him, and given so much of yourselves to his recovery. I am deeply embarrassed and sad that this is how he is choosing to show his gratitude.
Please pray for the Lord to work through him and show him the reasons why he needs to treasure and change his life, because it is totally up to the Lord now. He knows what I want and everyone else wants. It is up to him to do it. He has been doing great here the past couple of days, but he openly admits it is only because he wants to leave and he is "giving them what they want". He has no plans to continue taking care of himself after we leave here.